As many of you know, looking for work is not an easy task. It takes perseverance, a thick skin and the ability to “Keep Calm and Carry On.” I learned this first hand when I started my search back in March, 2014. I was laid off from a position I had been in for nine years and was immediately thrown into an abyss of job search websites, cover letters templates and endless advice columns.
The first step was to navigate through the chaos and noise to settle on what worked best for me. I chose my favourite ‘go to’ websites – the ones I trusted and whose words resonated with me (The Muse being one of the best). Then it was trying to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. Did I want to stay in HR – a career I had been focused on for the last 18 years? Or did I want to try something different? I had completed my undergraduate degree in Communications (back in the day), hoping to first get into the broadcast industry and/or write articles for a magazine or newspaper. It was by fluke that I landed in HR, but found that I loved it. I was lucky enough in my last job, to be able to combine my two passions. Was it time to go back to and focus solely on Comms? I conducted informational interviews with several people to determine the best course of action.
What I found was that if I wanted to change careers, I would have to start over – or at least accept a more junior position in any organization. At this stage in my professional life, I wasn’t sure whether I wanted to do that. However, I kept my options open – applying for both Communications and HR Manager roles as I researched them. Then came the rejection letters! Coping with these was the hardest part of my job search process. Every time I received one, it would throw me into a funk. People say you get used to them – but you don’t. Each one was a dagger through my heart (okay that might be a bit over-dramatic) and a blow to my ego, which had me thinking every single time: “Don’t these people know how fabulous I am!?”
Sometimes the funk would last a few hours; other times, a few days – especially if it was a position I really wanted. It took a lot of energy to get out of bed. It was a vicious circle: the depression would kick in, I would take my happy pills, receive a pep talk from a friend, parent or relative, get back up to try again and the cycle would continue.
- Build a Support System
On days like mentioned above, it is important to ensure that you have a good support system in place when you need a boost of motivation, or a swift kick in the pants! Whether you surround yourself with friends, family, mentors, coaches, network acquaintances, or a combination, having people to rely on is key in a job search process.
And when you’re feeling like you need a little extra push…
- Find Your Zen
What grounds you? Is it nature? Then go for a walk or a hike. Is it faith? Then ensure you visit your place of worship. Yoga? Get your downward dog on! Sports? Get sweaty. Whatever you need to do to focus and center you, do it. And do it often.
We all need replenishment!
- Fill the Well
Whereas zen focuses you, filling the well rejuvenates you. A combination of the two is therapy and guidance all rolled into one! Whether it’s going to a concert, listening to a motivational speaker, attending a conference, watching Ted Talks or searching You Tube for cat videos, make sure to fill your soul and do what’s needed to make you, you.
It’s okay to be sad…
- Have a Pity Party…or two
It’s ok to have those ‘down days’. Embrace them. Relish in them. Then, dust yourself off, and get back up. As a famous actress once said: “put on some lipstick, put on your big girl panties and get it done.” Or something to that effect…
I remember receiving a text from a friend of mine on one of those days:
Friend: “Whatchudoin?”
Me: “Having a pity party.”
Me: “Wanna come?”
Friend: “Will there be food :)”
- Don’t Forget the Fun Zone!
The most important thing is to make sure you include some fun in your week. For me, that meant going to the mall or watching a movie – but only on Tuesdays since it was half-price and I didn’t feel as guilty for spending the money! I also enjoy eating out, so would try to budget at least one night out a month with a girlfriend or a group of friends.
I can’t tell you how many resumes I sent out. Literally. Because I lost track. In the beginning, I was diligent, writing everything down in my journal. Then I transferred that to an online system, so that it was easier to track. I did go to a lot of interviews. A LOT OF INTERVIEWS. And not just one or two. There was one sequence where I had five interviews and still didn’t get the job! How’s that for rejection? There came to a time when I stopped modifying my resume to each position and just started sending out bulk e-mails. No cover letters. Just the generic resume. Yah. That didn’t work either. After a few months of that, it was back to the grind.
- What’s the Lesson?
Hindsight is 20/20; everything happens for a reason; you’re where you’re meant to be, blah, blah, blah, blah….oh wait. It’s true! We all have a life plan. Some of us want to get married by the age of 30, have kids by the age of 35, be the CEO of a Fortune 500 by the time we hit 40…and the list goes on. The funny thing is, life doesn’t work that way. Unfortunately, the universe has its own plan, which she won’t share with us. So what’s the learning? Why did it take me almost two years to find a full-time job when it took a friend of mine two weeks? It could be the different job types we were applying for; it could be the industry or the sector; it could be a lot of things. But what were the lessons I needed to learn? To be patient, to be grateful for what I had; to learn how to budget; and to spend time with those who are most important to me. Simple, basic things that I probably knew all along, but needed a refresher in. Apparently, a two-year refresher!